Today’s post is going to be a little different. It’s about a topic that might make some cringe or feel unworthy. This issue has really been bothering me a lot lately and has had quite a bit of media attention over a few years. So I want to just take a moment and share my thoughts.
The issue that has been bothering me is women and girls feeling like they aren’t beautiful or good enough. Well, I’m here to tell you that YOU are!!! There are so many articles out there in the media “fat shaming” or “skinny shaming” this woman or that woman. There are girls in schools calling other girls ugly (starting in elementary school), there are women in the work place talking poorly behind each other’s back about another woman and her appearance. There are woman and even men, who constantly are talking about their appearance and what they don’t like about it, what they wish they could change. And this HAS TO STOP! NOW! I don’t understand why women can’t be supportive of each other. Why do we have to bring others down to feel better about ourselves? Or why do we have to bring others down in general? What ever happened to “girl power”? I think it’s time for a come back!
One thing happened recently that really stood out to me. I was teaching a dance class of high schoolers. We were working on spotting (all you dancers out there know what I’m talking about) and I told the girls to look at themselves in the mirrors and don’t look away until they can’t see themselves anymore. One of the girls said something along the lines of she didn’t want to look at herself because she wasn’t pretty. And I was just dumbfounded for a second and couldn’t believe she had said that. She didn’t have any makeup on and I thought she looked really pretty. I told her to stop because she’s beautiful. Her reaction to that was a little taken aback, like she hadn’t really heard that before and it made me sad. Did her parents not tell her she was beautiful? Why did she think she wasn’t pretty?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I have my issues too, there are some days where I feel like I’m the ugliest person ever and then some days I’m feeling pretty beautiful and confident in myself. I’m only human, we all are. But I want the way we view ourselves to change, for the better. I watched this awesome video about an interactive mirror talking to women and building them up. If you have a few minutes, check it out! There are also the Dove commercials which I really like as well, here’s a cute 48 second one you should watch.
I have a little challenge for you, if you feel like you’re not pretty or that you’re not enough, take a minute and do this:
- Write down 5 things you like about your outward self
- Write down 5 things you like about your inner self
- Write down 5 things that you are thankful for
- Now look in a mirror and tell yourself 5 times that you are beautiful and that you are enough! And if you feel the urge, shout it out! (because you are, you have to believe it now)
** If you’re feeling creative, write down all your 5 things on cute paper and put it in a picture frame to display where you can see it daily and be reminded.
I hope that every woman feels beautiful and feels like she’s enough. We were created in God’s image, He knows every hair on our heads, He created us perfectly. We have to believe that ourselves.
Signing off in the words of Meghan Trainor, “every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.”